Not Quite There Yet

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You may have a little more time than you thought. ❤️

Based on your answers, your daughter doesn’t seem to have entered the first season of puberty quite yet.

But that doesn’t mean nothing is happening!

Even before the changes become obvious on the outside, her brain is beginning to prepare for what’s ahead. Hormonal and developmental changes are underway, and you may even start catching little (or not so little) glimpses of shifts in her emotions, independence, or the way she sees herself.

The bigger, more noticeable changes are still coming, but her body is getting ready.

You might be noticing…

• Not a lot has changed physically yet. She may not have many of the obvious signs of puberty, and her body may still look much like it has for the past few years.
• But you may catch little glimpses of change. Bigger feelings, new sensitivities, stronger opinions, or moments of wanting a little more independence may start showing up here and there and often unpredictably!
• Her world may still feel pretty close to home. Friends and outside influences matter, but they may not yet have a major influence on how she sees herself or the world around her.

A season, not a box

Puberty doesn’t follow a neat little calendar. Some girls begin earlier, some later, and different parts of development can unfold at very different rates.

This quiz is based on my own framework for understanding the seasons of puberty. It looks at the whole girl, considering her physical development alongside emotions, relationships, and growing independence.

It’s not a medical diagnosis or clinical assessment. Think of it as a helpful snapshot of where your daughter seems to be right now, not a step by step prediction of exactly how puberty will unfold.

She isn’t behind. She isn’t ahead. She is exactly where God created her to be.

What she needs from you right now

She doesn’t need you to start treating her like a teenager before she actually is one.

She needs you.

You don’t have to sit her down for The Big Puberty Talk™. 😂

Just start making conversations about bodies, emotions, friendships, boundaries, faith, and the world around her feel normal.

Answer the questions she asks. Be curious about what she’s noticing. Let her know she can come to you with the awkward, random, embarrassing, or totally out-of-left-field questions without getting shut down.

You’re creating the kind of relationship where, when the bigger changes arrive, she already knows Mom is a safe place to come.

For now, enjoy this season

If puberty hasn’t started yet, you may be tempted to spend your time wondering when it will.

You don’t have to.

Laugh with her. Listen to her stories. Ask about the things she’s obsessed with right now. Make traditions. Talk about what she’s learning and what she’s wondering about.

There’s still time to simply enjoy being her mom.

And when the questions get bigger, the emotions get messier, and her world starts changing, you’ll be right there with her.

For now, let her grow. Let yourself enjoy her. And trust that God knows exactly what He’s doing.

Curious what’s ahead?  👀

See how the seasons of puberty unfold and what each one may look like for your girl.